Ok. Enough of this. My astrologer tells me I take myself much too seriously. (Yeah, an astrologer. What else would I call her, an angel?). I was going to get all tangled up in some new javascript that I found, and then maybe change all my icons from 32x32 size to 32x88 cuz I found a bunch I want to use that are the larger size, and then I might create more pages for this site within a sensible structure like other sites I see...
And then I remembered; there is something in me that needs to come out -- that's why I get into this kind of unfocussed frenzy. So, what might it be?
I wonder sometimes why in this weblog I don't write most of the things that are going on. Other bloggers give a nicely proportioned serving of their day with some detail, sometimes with great detail. Why don't I do this? (Rhetorical question -- no e-mails, please.). So. This is what is going on:
So that is what's going on -- or not going on, as the case may be. And I don't feel even the slightest bit better for having not indulged my fetish for javascript merely for the sake of trying to be more like all the other bloggers in the world. Harumph. I'm going now to play with some javascript -- or maybe getting into bed would be nice. Hmm...
...and anything could happen
Ahh, Mary. Is it you who make the tears? Or is it me? Or are they made in that horrible holy space between us all, where we fail -- fail to meet; to love; to touch and give; to touch and receive; to let go; to hold on...
(I want -- just one more time in my life -- for the center of my world to be my nana's chocolate chip cookies.).
But here the tears gather, in the wet of my own eyes; blame me for them. Guilt by association. But I don't want them. But here they are, more and more.
And more. Thank you.
I used to live at this site. I watched his webcam day in and day out. I was in love with him in the same way that I love the sexy boi's I know I cannot have, the fresh beauties who do not have a pathologic attraction for older paunchy men. Rex was the perfect sweet soul, kind to all, sensitive in a crystalline-honest way, and gentle. He was one of those delicious boys who made me achingly aware of that place in my heart where I wanted someone to be. But I tried to be the good observer from a distance, not contemptuous of him, for he deserved no contempt, and not hating him for his vital youth and love of life, for that is the basest kind of jealousy. I tried to be just me, whatever that would be if I were like his other admirers -- open and honest and not trying to keep contained a raging white-hot lonliness in a pressure vessle of calm appearance.
He was so many things that I was not; young, attractive, productive, social. Genuine. While watching his webcam I listened to his nightly web-broadcast on gaybc.com almost religiously. I watched him have coffee most mornings when he got up around 8 or 9 AM his time, which was around 11 or noon my time -- we usually got up together. It was as much interpersonal reality as I could handle at the time, the silent movie of reX updated every 40 seconds. I wondered what he was saying when I saw him on the phone, and who he was saying it to. I wondered what he was watching when the downloaded image showed him alone on his couch illuminated only by the light from his TV. I wondered how I would behave if I were there, within earshot of his TV -- within the sound of his voice. How would I respond? Who would I be?
maybe you know already - perhaps told by a dReam - or vision - or passing thought or maybe wHen you took your med's one time you might think .. "hmmmmm... wHy am i tHinking of michael right now?" .. what has he done now? ..
I tried to read the language of the bodies when he was not alone on that couch; he was modest, never an exhibitionist, though he was extremely hot. And his partners (the few I saw) were never interested enough in him; either they persued their own sexual urges despite his reluctance, or they dumbly ignored what appeared to be his obvious affections, withholding their warmth and resisting intimacy with him. Baffling to me.
One of the things I respected most about reX was the loving way he handled people -- callers to his show, people who wrote in, guests -- who were HIV positive. He treated us the same way he treated everybody, with whole hearted kindness and goodwill. He even had a positive boyfriend for a significant period of time. I loved reX.
sPecial you are now to me.. moRe and more .. as i miss and yearn my best fRiend.. my confidant.. it sCares me that my protection cant protect you fRom some of tHOse realities - makes me smehow feel like i failed - and tHen wHen i found out I wHas pos - it made me feel eVen more disapointed - or that i failed a mission
i haVe always used my "neg" status as magic and protection for those i loVed - being neg meant i could keep others safe as well..
I speak of reX in the past tense not because he died or anything like that, but because he left. He disappeared from gaybc without much explanation that I could find. But I didn't look too hard because he was still on-camera; I had figured out how to watch his webcam without going to his site -- stealing bandwidth it's called. I am a sinner. But even his pictures spoke of something different. My reading of his images told a story of some disruption, a hard wind of change. His images switched web-hosts, he started showing more skin -- not immodestly, but like a modest boy pretending to be immodest. I wondered where he was going.
I stopped snatching his images off his server because it began to appear like reX was using them commercially, on badpuppy.com. Private galleries of reX-images became available to subscribers. And nowhere on the web could I find his voice, which, now that I think about it, had always been wHay more sexy than any cock- or butt-shot could ever be.
Fast-forward to tonight, while I was wrestling with my lately spotty DSL connection and out of sheer annoyance at my disconnectivity I clicked on a streaming-audio link in an e-mail sent by Eric at planetconcrete.com. There was reX, at radio.gaycams.com. I listened to reX again. I watched. And I read.
And I cried. Because I've been at this place before. And I never finished crying from when I was in that same place, eight years ago, discovering that I was HIV positive, too.
Maybe you never finish, maybe you never complete the task of working through a tragedy. Maybe instead of crying as much as you could -- which would take forever and certainly be enough tears to wash away all the dust from ground-zero -- instead, you simply mark the dust with a thousand tears, and then you walk away. They say that even a work of art is never truly finished, just abandoned.
I love you reX, and I don't care what anybody thinks of that. I don't even care if you don't love me back the same way -- which of course you don't. (If you do, I'll be there within 24 hours. <grin> ). No, I love you because my love is -- it has to be -- unrequited. It cannot safely exist otherwise. It blooms in the space of your absence; it would wilt from shyness under the sheer intensity of your attention.
The truest work of our hearts is never finished, just abandoned...